“…but there was a distance they did not pass.” 6 Truths About Chaste Intimacy from Les Misérables

p-588069-psatgv8e8v-11Do you remember when holding hands was sensational and amazingly intimate?
Nowadays, I am saddened by the loss of innocence that I see in the world. The protracted and beautiful progression of intimacy proper to relationships has been accelerated to an ugly and selfish expression of lust which lacks temperance. Chastity has an appropriate expression at every level of a relationship. The modern expression of relationship intimacy has no apparent boundaries. The ultimate expression of intimacy between a man and woman is cheaply experienced in the first moments of a relationship.  The unfortunate reality that I have encountered in working with youth is that they have gone way past holding hands. The sheer lack of chastity has robbed so many of authentic intimacy.
In the midst of lamenting this reality I was profoundly impacted when I came across a particular paragraph in Victor Hugo’s Les Misérables. At this point in the epic novel, two young lovers, Cosette and Marius, have finally found each other. The universe has aligned and granted them a month together when they can clandestinely meet each night. In our present age, a story about two young lovers meeting in secret at night would most certainly include sexual intercourse using contraception. In Hugo’s novel, the reader encounters a real treasure, i.e., a wholesome expression of an appropriate chaste intimacy that makes the lust of our time seem tired and boring.

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Working Smarter Not Harder

trees-cuttingAbraham LIncoln once said, “Give me 6 hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first 4 sharpening the axe.”

I was reminded of the following story during one of my recent interviews. I think it is a good reflection on maintaining life balance:

Once there was a wood-chopping contest between two men. Whoever cut down the most trees by the end of the day would be declared the winner. Thirty minutes into the contest the first man took a break. Thirty minutes later he took another break, and so on for the rest of the day. At noon he even took an extended break for lunch. The second man diligently worked Continue reading

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For What Do You Hunger? (Homily for the 18th Week of OT Year B)

hungerIt has been said that a person is only 9 meals away from committing a crime or suicide. What kind of person do we become when we do not get the things we hunger for?

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